leaf floating in water

Let the Water and Ceremonies Wash Away Our Pain

close up of water with a misty yellow sun shining in in the distance

In the chapter called “Where the Stories Came From,” I, the author, describe my young life with my Grandma. First, I want everyone to know, I felt safe and loved when I was with her. Because I, as a teen, didn’t want to cause Grandma any stress, I tried to stay out of trouble. But, even when I made mistakes, Grandma forgave me. As a result, I often worried about who would care for Grandma if I were ever sent to a group home?

In the novel, I call the teenager Mary.

Even though Grandma was a feminist, she talked with a soft heart about a serious problem in Vancouver and other parts of Canada; this trouble was and is the Missing and Murdered Women and Girls (MMIWG). This is where criminals have harmed, and in many cases murdered, Indigenous women and girls. In particular, we discussed violent crimes in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside. For example, I refer to the case of monstrous murderers and, in particular, the serial murderer we simply call “pig farmer”. Because his actions were so horrible, I struggle to understand how anyone can forgive such crimes. Women and girls still face constant violence and we; you and I are witnesses.

First, Mary prays and asks people to understand that anger often comes from deep hurt. Then she asks for help, letting go of guilt and frustration. Mary feels bad about being angry at her mother for passing away. At the same time, Magdalena feels unjust anger at herself for losing her children.
 Both pray for the strength to forgive themselves and those who have hurt them. Throughout the ceremony, all sing and hum together. It should be noted that each Elder’s ceremony is unique to them.

leaf floating in water at night

Mary, the teen, talks in Mary and her Metis Grandma:
“It surprised me, and it might seem absurd, but it felt good to cry. I remember Grandma Pearl telling me between her little sobs,
Crying is a sacred water ceremony’. You need to be able to cry to release all kinds of poisons. We can heal through crying. We should not be ashamed or apologetic when we cry because it is a sacred ceremony.” …

Lo and behold, a little while later, Ducky, Granny’s pet, passed. We put him in a child’s toy boat and put him on a lake to float away.

light shines through a forest

Mary says in the novel: “…I think I was unconsciously trying to deal with my anger. I felt like there was anger from one of the participants in the sweat, who probably thought, What does this white bimbo know about forgiveness or pain? What the fuck does she have to forgive? But maybe I was just being paranoid.”
 At the end, the facilitator asks everyone to pray for themselves. After that, the group shares gratitude for everything in their lives. The sweat ceremony helps them heal.

Lisa Yellow-quill is Master of Ceremony at Trout Lake. This is a Water ceremony

I’m really happy that you came and that you are here to support me. And to stand up for Mother Earth and for that lifeblood that flows through her. And all the women that we are going to be walking for.”

Kelly talks about how when she came back from working for the United Nations and how she “…found her sisters body parts on the ground.” That time was very dificult because of “…brutal race battle relations that we are still going through… … my abition is to capture the spirit of unity and honour and create that essence to deliver so that everyone can pick up a drum [regardless of race or culture] … …so my part was to create an Assembly of Nations for each others. …” Kelly then talks about her part in starting the Feb 14th Memorial March.

Lisa says: The direction is here. The direction is that this is a unifying ceremony. It’s a woman’s ceremony, and it’s about bringing us all together. It’s also why we’re carrying those buckets; they say it’s about why we are carrying those tears. We are carrying those tears of those women [MMIWG]. We will carry that water, and we will demonstrate that way [of life], and I think that what that is about, also for us women, is about, like, demonstrating a way of governance that is related to the land.

Nipiy is the Cree word for water. It names the life-giving spirit that nurtures us in the womb. Then, as our mothers’ waters break, water brings us into the world. Therefore, we can return to any water ceremony at any time to seek healing, renewal, and balance in our well-being (mind, body, spirit).

September is always a rough month for her because that is when her mother dies. Immediately, after turning the calendar page, old memories and painful feelings rush back. 


Then, something changed. “…after I forgave the nurses, I was able to breathe. I have since learned that is where our ‘heart chakra’ is. When I was able to forgive, I thought to myself, Wow! What an amazing feeling to be able to breathe deeply!” The forgiveness happened quickly, even though Mary had carried hate for many years.

In the wake of this powerful moment, Mary felt as if she had escaped from a poisonous jail of agony. “After this epiphany of forgiveness, it felt as though I was released from a dark prison of horrors whose walls were made of slithery-shifting pain.”

The next day, she continued to practice forgiveness. Step by step, she brought her hidden pain into the light. 

From the novel, Mary says: “It was as if a cage had been unlocked from which I scrambled or crawled and dragged the tortured pieces of my spirit into the light. Secrets live in the dark. Out of the darkness. Into the light. All joyous life, spiritual and physical, is energized by bright, illuminating light.” 

Mary faced her wounded inner child instead of pushing it away. “We all carry pain. I could no longer ignore my shadow [of pain].” Although the memories shocked her, they also helped her forgive herself and others. In the end, forgiveness gave her a sense of freedom, healing, and peace.

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  1. Jasper, R. (2026, February 22). Mary and her Metis Grandma Archives – Rita Jasper Art of Life. Rita Jasper Art of Life. https://ritajasperart.com/category/mary-and-her-metis-grandma/ ↩︎
  2. Jasper, R. (Producer, Direct, Editor, Director of Photography) (2013) Rita Jasper. (2024, June 12). MMIWG Moon Water Episode 1 Chapter 5 [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJb0DvY6CXc ↩︎
  3. Sweat is an Indigenous ceremony.
    What is the proper etiquette for Sweat Lodge ceremonies?
    Strong Nations Book Store & Saskatchewan Indian Cultural Centre. (n.d.). What is the proper etiquette for sweat lodge ceremonies? Saskatchewan Indian Cultural Centre. Retrieved February 26, 2026 from https://www.strongnations.com/gs/show.php?gs=4&gsd=3914 ↩︎
  4. Episode 3 Chapter 10 Unity & Ceremony Retrieved August 12, 2025 YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8-km0ZaCHs ↩︎
  5. Rita Jasper. (2024c, July 21). MMIWG Moon Water Episode 3 Chapter 10 Unity & Ceremony [Video]. Retrieved August 12, 2025 YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8-km0ZaCHs ↩︎
  6. Lightbourn, D., Paul, E., Pasula, S., Mustus, C.,…Strattkotter, R., (2018/19). Stories from the Kohkoms: Circle Teachings Calendar
    Timeline Section 1885 ↩︎
  7. Reading in video format from Mary and her Metis Grandma Chapter 1 https://youtu.be/wrgUwRqBm9k?si=P008QK8_FMePG2hY ↩︎

Intergenerational Storytelling in Mary and Her Métis Grandma

MODES of TRAVEL: Intergenerational Metis Storytelling, details Red River Carts

To understand this history, it helps to look at transportation. In Grandma’s time, people travelled in modern horse-drawn carriages. But before that, earlier Metis people used Red River carts.

Noteably, the carts were constructed entirely of wood, bound with rawhide and held together by wooden pins. As a result of this practical design, families could easily repair them.
The wood rubbing against wood created a powerful squeaking sound that carried for miles across the prairie and rolling hills. Consequently, people often said, “…the squeaky creaking was the Red River ballad.”

Intergenerational Metis Storytelling: Red River cart or wagon wheel with rawhide.

I was told that those Red River carts creaked because they were made without metal nails. Yes, even the nails were made of wood. Later, in my generation, we had modern horse-drawn Democrat buggies.

Intergenerational Metis Storytelling: A man's hand is placing a wooden peg nail into the Red River car axle.
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By the end of the summer, we Métis had a lot of smoked and dried buffalo meat. Importantly, this food carried us through the winter.”

Red River cart replica with wood wheel with wood nails.
Red River cart replica with wood wheel with wood nails.

Intergenerational Metis Storytelling talks of Prairie Life, Travel with SCOUTS (1900s)

Meanwhile, Grandma told her stories with warmth and friendly humour. In addition to recounting history, she sprinkled in playful expressions like, “Saskabush… hee heeee”.

Grandmas’ Intergenerational Metis Storytelling: Saskatchewan, Traveling in wagons and relying on Scouts


…For instance, camping with a group of people who had travelled from different parts of Saskabush… hee heeee. You knew I meant Saskatchewan. At the time, almost everyone was travelling by wagon or cart with extra horses. Sometimes horses become lame and can’t pull anything heavy.

Intergenerational Metis Storytelling about prairie back roads

http://Photo by Gauravdeep Singh Bansal on Unsplash


Because of this, scouts were important because they would scooooot. After all, that’s what scouts do, scoot ahead to check that the trail or road conditions are passable for wagons. So, we tried to make the horses’ or oxen’s work as easy as possible because we didn’t want them to become injured on a rough trail. With that in mind, you can imagine how much we valued the scouts.

However, the history of the prairies also carries deep sorrow. The government wanted to clear the prairies of buffalo primarily to gain more land for farmers. To achieve this goal, officials deliberately targeted Indigenous Peoples’ main food source. They felt it was necessary to exterminate the Indigenous people. Intergenerational Metis Storytelling, documents this history.

By destroying the bison herds Indigenous peoples’ ability to survive with any level of autonomy was also gone. Some consider the governments’ actions as attempted extermination of the people. Therefore, this was more than cultural oppression. But grandma’s storytelling itself is an act of resistance—preserving voice and memory.

BUFFALO SLAUGHTER


It was a deliberate government policy to subdue Indigenous Peoples by removing their food source. This is how Grandma recounts the history.

Grandma’s voice took on a menacing tone regarding the slaughter of the bison. Yet, through her storytelling, she actively resisted erasure and preserved memory, voice, and truth for future generations.

…However, the North American railways, with the government policies, had the intention to starve Indigenous Peoples. Specifically, the government decided to exterminate the buffalo because that would make the Indians dependent on the colonizing government. 1 ( https://www.thecanadianencyclopedia.ca/en/article/buffalo-hunt )

Intergenerational Metis Storytelling Calf feeding on mother bison

Photographer Gauravdeep Singh Bansal https://unsplash.com/photos/green-grass-field-under-blue-sky-during-daytime-BYJGuUu6UkM

Some will tell you that in the 1870s, there was a steady demand for buffalo products, which encouraged massive slaughter in N. America. So, yes, there was a demand for bison products. But to say that’s why the buffalo population dwindled would be a lie.

BUFFALO BONE CHINA

Although many people know about the fur trade, fewer understand its connection to bone china. Years after Grandma passed, I watched Dana Claxton’s 1997 video. It was titled Buffalo Bone China. Only then did I fully understand what Grandma meant when she said,“There are buffalo bones in my tea set.”

Intergenerational Metis Storytelling Bison Skull and bomes

Shot this photo at the Red Deer Museum and Art Gallery
https://reddeermuseum.com/

PERFORMANCE ART visual art with dramatic execution.

Intergenerational Metis Storytelling Bone china teapot with prairie rose pattern

How Art Highlights History and Reality

COLONIAL POLICIES


Grandma continued her well-informed rant.

I must tell you somethin’ ‘suga plum’. Government policies had nothing to do with bone china; that was similar to a side hustle.
( https://www.metismuseum.ca/media/document.php/13888.Buffalo%20Bone%20Picking.pdf ). 8 Instead, the purpose of killing off the bison was to conquer and control the Indians’ land at any cost. As a result, the buffalo paid the price, but so did all prairie people because it was the main source of food; this was especially true for the Indians.
One way the government did this was to encourage men to ride the trains and shoot buffalo after buffalo after buffalo. They riddled the prairies with bison bones. The land became a never ending grave yard. Ultimately, this would destroy the buffalo herds and cause severe suffering for N. America’s Indigenous Peoples.

In the final analysis, Dana Claxton’s art and Mary and her Metis Grandma both embody Intergenerational storytelling. When Grandma shares with Mary, history radiates from Grandma as though she is the sun or the moon. Through story, art, and truth, they intentionally pass knowledge from Elders to future generations.


I hope you found this post informative yet interesting, and will check back at ritajasperart.com
Thank you.
Rita Jasper

  1. Foster, J. E., (March 7, 2006) Buffalo Hunt, Near Extinction and Recovery. Retrieved November 2021 from https://www.thecanadianencyclopedia.ca/en/article/buffalo-hunt ↩︎
  2. Wikipedia contributors. (2011, May 27). File: Bison skull pile edit.jpg – Wikipedia. Retrieved February 11th, 2026 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Bison_skull_pile_edit.jpg ↩︎
  3. Bone china manufacturing in North America began on a commercial scale around the turn of the 20th century, primarily led by Lenox. While England dominated production from the 1790s onward, American manufacturers, notably Lenox in Trenton, New Jersey, began producing high-quality, translucent bone china in the early 1900s
    Lenox, Inc. | Encyclopedia.com. (n.d.). Retrieved February 11th 2026 https://www.encyclopedia.com/books/politics-and-business-magazines/lenox-inc ↩︎
  4. Sadly, I cannot find the video anymore, but I found this image at Claxton’s website. Retrieved February 12, 2036 https://ahva.ubc.ca/events/event/dana-claxton-revisited/ ↩︎
  5. Buffalo Bone China — Dana Claxton. (n.d.). Dana Claxton. Retrieved August 12, 2025. https://www.danaclaxton.com/artwork/buffalo-bone-china ↩︎
  6. I don’t know if this is exactly what Claxton is referring to, but
    “… 
1) Sacred bundles are important cultural artifacts in many Indigenous American traditions, representing the spiritual power and medicine of their owners. These bundles, often wrapped in animal hides, contain a variety of objects that hold significant meaning, such as tobacco, feathers, and various ceremonial tools. They are believed to have supernatural abilities to aid in healing, attract love, …” 
Sacred bundles | Health and Medicine | Research Starters | EBSCO Research. (n.d.). EBSCO. Retrieved February 12, 2026 https://www.ebsco.com/research-starters/health-and-medicine/sacred-bundles
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    2) “When we carry sacred items, we carry them with the recognition that everything in Creation has spirit, including the animals and plants, the rocks, the water, the moon and the stars. Even one feather of a bird has spirit. When we carry a feather in our bundle and use it for our personal prayers and in ceremony, we are calling on the spirit of that bird for help and guidance.”
    Sacred items and bundles – Anishnawbe Mushkiki. (2021, April 7). Anishnawbe Mushkiki. Retrieved February 12, 2026 https://mushkiki.com/programs-services/sacred-items-and-bundles/ ↩︎
  7. Dana Claxton; Revisited – Department of Art History, Visual Art & Theory. (2021, August 16). Department of Art History Retrieved February 12, 2026 https://ahva.ubc.ca/events/event/dana-claxton-revisited/ ↩︎
  8. Besides selling bison bones for manufacturing bone china, the bones were processed into fertilizers, sugar refining, etc. First Nations, Metis and settlers collected bones to sell to railroad agents and agents of eastern manufacturing companies in the US and Canada during the late 19th century. The bones were shipped to industrial centres like Chicago, Detroit, and St. Louis for processing.
    Barkwell, L., Montana Historical Society, & Foster, M. (1989). Buffalo Bone picking. In S. Breilmeier (Ed.), Thunderstorms and Tumbleweeds 1887-1987 East Blaine County (p. 25). Blaine County Centennial Book Committee. Retrieved February 11th, 2026
    https://www.metismuseum.ca/media/document.php/13888.Buffalo%20Bone%20Picking.pdf ↩︎

New Launch Date for Mary and her Metis Grandma

February 2026

Cover Art Coming soon!

Spider web in wilderness with rain drops

Spider web in wilderness. Photo
by Annie Spratt Hobbyist photographer.

https://unsplash.com/@anniespratt

It is still a mystery to me, but I wait with excited anticipation.

I don’t think my publisher (At Bay Press) will be using the red roses because the book talks about the Wild Rose, which is sometimes called the Prairie Rose (pink or fuchsia coloured). Either way, it is a flower with thorns. The current rose is a placeholder. I did send some image ideas, and a few that reminded me of Clarence Westcoup’s style (an Indigenous artist from Western Canada). I gave my publisher lots of ideas, so we will see what they do.

With that said, I’ve reduced the appendices from around 200 to under 100, but did not reduce the 500 endnotes; for the editor &/or book designer, these details can be daunting, but it does show extensive research. This is like looking at a beautiful yet complicated and silky spider web. 

Continue reading of find out why the spider web image is here.

My attentive and conscientious publisher, with their dedicated team, is working hard on the final and intricate copy. Using their spidey senses, they are proofreading edits as we speak. I expect their innovative artistic talents and imagination will result in a unique book design. 

My publisher has pushed the publication date to February, which is only 3 months away, to ensure the finished book is extraordinary. The team needs to carefully navigate my alluring spider web of information (appendices and endnotes). 

The reason I went to such lengths with secondary research is to cut off the deniers or racists before they can get started. Mary and her Metis Grandma is composed of my personal experiences, my Grandma’s memoirs, historical events and facts. All of which I backed up with secondary research, hence all those 500 endnotes. While this is an engaging auto and historical fiction novel, it is a good resource for encouraging young adults and some of us old fogies, to do our own research.

I thank each and every one of you for your much-appreciated patience. 

I am excited to soon be sharing the cover art. Heads up — I’m sure the cover is not a web. I liked the photo of the spider web for the analogy of the situation.

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Metis Matters Radio

Derrick Whiteskycloud very graciously took time out of his day to interview me and support the novel, Mary and her Metis Grandma. Thank you Derrick.

Mary and her Metis Grandma

This interview is about Mary and her Metis Grandma, which is a novel for readers 11-year-old uptown and beyond 80-year-olds. It is about a teen who has to go live with her Grandma who loves her very much. It talks about why I wrote the novel.

Mary and her Metis Grandma — segment from chapter 1

At the end of the interview, choose to watch the video Mary and her Metis Grandma — segment from chapter 1, which talks about a message Mary receives from her mother from the beyond.

Indigenous Perspectives on Sacred Water

I’ve attended various Indigenous events for personal growth and as research for Mary and her Metis Grandma (novel); the one that blew me away was a Water Ceremony. I’ve pulled some quotes from Lisa Yellow-Quill, from Moon Water, a documentary about the Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls. I’ve also learned a traditional Indigenous perspective about rivers and our veins from Douglas Bonaise, at an environmental event.

Lisa Yellow-Quill talks about water and Mother Earth at Trout Lake BC.

Indigenous Water Ceremony

Many cultures have water ceremonies. Lisa Yellow-Quill, a First Nation lady, conducted one for women. Click the link below to view the video (https://youtu.be/i8-km0ZaCHs?si=Php87mT4DzUHNIW5&t=163 ) and the button at end of post to read the PDF.

Veins as Rivers and Treaties

Douglas Bonaise, an Elder from Treaty Six, at an environmental event, talks about the veins that run through our body as rivers. Click link below to view video https://youtu.be/W91_XZK_jAM?si=ehrvAYbzmnXD5Zk2&t=111 . Click the button at end of post to view to read the PDF.

Small river runs through a forest.

Moon Water Episode 1 Chapter 4

This video is about the Missing and Murdered Women of BC Canada. Georgina Papin’s sisters talk about the importance of family and belonging at her memorial.

Moon Water Episode 1 Chapter 1

Missing

I did a 3 part video called Moon Water which I finished in 2017 and last year I did a video about a 14-year-old who was murdered in Vancouver. Her body was found in a room on the downtown east side.

There are still vulnerable women going missing and being murdered all over this rich country.